Episode 009: Someplace for Everybody and Punk Rock Saves Lives – Introducing Tina Rushing

As an adult, we often long for simpler times and fun experiences… so we’re bringing you just that. Get ready for a badass sleepover with your best friends filled with self-love and empowerment. Someplace Images and Punk Rock Saves Lives are teaming up to bring you the Someplace for Every Body Womxn’s Conference, happening in October 2022 in Miami, FL.

In this episode, I’m joined by Tina Rushing, co-founder of Punk Rock Saves Lives, to introduce her so you know just how amazing this conference will be, but also to talk about mental health and how this conference came to be.

Trigger Warning: Before you listen to this episode, please note that we do discuss fertility, mental health, and suicidal thoughts in this episode.

This episode is brought to you by Someplace for Every Body – The Conference, a three-day, three-night event will be filled with diverse speakers, engaging activities, and a multitude of vendors all coming together to empower womxn from around the country. Join us October 6-9, 2022 by grabbing your tickets today!

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Review the Show Notes

Get to Know Tina (00:57)

About Punk Rock Saves Lives (4:20)

1 out of 100 people get the call of being a match

1 out of 500 people will donate

Tina & Rob’s Passions (12:25)

Someplace for Every Body Conference (17:53)

What to Expect: 

• Amazing Speakers
• Vendors
• Philanthropists
• Food
• Self Defense Classes
• Parties & Mixers
• Music
• Dress How You Want

Our Schedule Includes: (22:25)

• Punk Rock Concert & Wear Whatever You Want
• Glam & Boujee  Night
• Body Positive Beach Day & Pool Party

Meet Walter the Dog (38:31)

Pricing & How Rooms Will Work (41:31)

Tina’s Experience with Authenticity & Self-Love (48:48)

The Outdated “American Dream” (51:26)

Resources in Journey (1:02:22)

Carly Someplace FB Group

Advice to Younger Self (1:09:11)

Childhood Experiences (1:08:40)

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Website: Punkrocksaveslives.org

Volunteer with Punk Rock Saves Lives

Mental Health Resources from Punk Rock Saves Lives

Punk Rock Saves Lives Facebook Page

Punk Rock Saves Lives Mental Health Facebook Group

Punk Rock Saves Lives Recovery Support Facebook Group

Connect with Tina at info@punkrocksaveslives.org for 4 Free Sessions with Better Help

Episode 003 with Alex Trempe

Let’s Connect:

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Review the Transcript:

Carly Someplace
Welcome to some place for everybody where we talk about belonging and being a human in our bodies and living in and learning to love our bodies. I’m your host, Carly someplace. This podcast is brought to you by someplace that midges Goodwater everybody, you can see the full show notes at some place for everybody.com. Now, let’s change some self perspectives. Hey, y’all, this is Carly someplace that I’m so excited to introduce you to my very dear friend, Tina rushing, who is the co founder of punkrock saves lives. And like my partner in crime and so many different things. So Tina, my dear, I would love for you to tell our listeners a little bit more about yourself. And a tiny bit about punk rock saves lives. And then I want to tell everybody about what we’re partners in crime in.

Tina Rushing
Hi, yes, I’m so excited. I’m Hi, I’m Tina rushing. I am a co founder of punk rock saves lives. We are a nonprofit that uses the punk rock Community Music communities of all kinds of sorts to do good. So we focus on wellness and equality. And we go to music festivals and concerts. And we put on shows and we do that all promote doing more in your community, which I think is pretty cool. Yep. And I just kind of have found myself here I am. I don’t know. I have a musical background which works out I guess, a little bit a little bit yet. I have a 10 plus years and community theater experience, which is how I have done so much with nonprofits and different things like that, which is how I’ve kind of come to this place in my life.

Carly Someplace
I love it. I love it so much. And I got to be on the ground with you at punk rock bowling this year. And it was like so intense. Also so hot. We were in Vegas. And it was it was melting temperatures. So that was fun.

Tina Rushing
Yeah. I really Yeah, I I put you in one of our hardest festivals. Mostly because it’s the best it’s one of our best festivals and being like bowling are just so you I mean, you witness it yourself. You’re just constantly What is this? Yes, punk rock saves lives did say like punk did save my life. Yeah,

Carly Someplace
exactly. It was. It was such a cool experience. I just never felt so like, immediately accepted into a community of people and meeting new people, even just the other people that we were volunteering or that were volunteering with me that were volunteering for you and like everybody else that was in the nonprofit tent with us was so cool. And like, oh my gosh, we had so much fun. We it was a struggle to stay hydrated for a day days. Like I know I honestly think about it. I’m like, I don’t know if I’ve ever drink that much water in in that short of a time period and was still not peeing not I didn’t like 10pm every night.

Tina Rushing
Yeah, it’s terrible. It’s what Pedialyte is my friend. Yeah. Yeah, like for sure. Is my best friend. But it is it is. Um, that’s why I like I wasn’t a huge punk rock fan. I liked some things like Gaslight Anthem, and I liked like plugging Molly. But that wasn’t my main source of music, right? In my everyday life. And then I started meeting people and the punk community and the ridiculous like nature of every person who they’re true to themselves, and they automatically accept you and love you and your family is kind of out of control. I’ve never that I don’t I honestly don’t believe there’s another music genre out there that the people are that way.

Carly Someplace
I I don’t really think so either. Like, I listened to a lot of music, like my musical tastes are all over the board. And like and so specifically at punk rock bowling, I was super excited to see streetlight manifesto, who is obviously more ska, which is something that I listened to versus like over punk and everything like this, which is so funny, because even in punk rock bowling, everybody was like, oh, like what band are you so excited to see? And I was like, I don’t listen to punk music. I know. I look like I do because I have blue air but. But it was just like it was it was so much fun. And it was it was definitely intense. And so for those of you who don’t know what punk rock saves lives does at the majority of music festivals is you. You’re there as a volunteer. I was there as a volunteer, obviously Tina’s, you know, running things. But we were registering people for the bone marrow donor donor list. And so you get people to sign up if they’re eligible and get them to swab the insides of their cheeks. And then from there, everything is shipped out and if they’re a match, which it’s one in 100 Correct.

Tina Rushing
So it’s a little Yeah, they’re a little funny. So one out of 100 people will definitely get a phone call that they are a potential match to donate to someone, but it like really shakes down to one out of 500 people So one out of five phone calls is going to actually donate is actually going to get to the process to donation.

Carly Someplace
That’s that. Yeah. Which is crazy. So we swapped Oh, and registered over 300 people during congratulating. Yeah, yeah. So So in theory, maybe maybe one of those people will go all the way through of being a donor. But I also thought it was so cool because we met quite a few people who were like, Hey, you guys registered me a few years ago, and I donated and I got a call. And like, that was so cool to see just the people who came back and they were like, This is so cool. Or other people who were like, hey, I want to become a donor because I lost somebody, or even people like that young girl who came up and lost her dad. And she was like, he couldn’t get a donor. So I want to come and I want to be a donor and you and I

Tina Rushing
signed up on his birthday.

Carly Someplace
Everybody was there for his birthday, his

Tina Rushing
birthday, like memory celebration and

Carly Someplace
friends. Yeah, everybody came to punk rock bowling, and she signed up on his birthday. That was phenomenal. Like so cool. It’s those

Tina Rushing
it’s really those moments. I will be really quick. There’s the one that I’ve had that I still think of every day, we were at Bonnaroo. And I mother came up and was like, This is so neat. My son is alive today because someone signed up at a concert in at Redbox in Colorado. And we are a Denver based nonprofit, right. We’ve been signing up my husband and I we’ve been signing up people for over 10 years. Yes. So we signed like, people that we know signed up someone who had that donor to save that kid’s life and he actually came to our booth and it was a really like, I feel like the best kind of experience you’d like to meet someone who’s actually alive today to something we did

Carly Someplace
at just give me chills. Seriously gives me chills, it’s it’s so amazing. And punk rock saves lives does a lot, a lot, a lot within so many different communities. Obviously, someplace images, and punk rock saves lives together, we, you know, go back and forth, and we bounce ideas off of each other. And I’m so thankful and grateful for our relationship. And that all just happened because you came into my life as a brand ambassador, which is a whole other story.

Tina Rushing
I know. And that’s the best part. It’s like I didn’t know, you know,

Carly Someplace
I literally, uh, you were so when I brought on my 2020 Ambassador team, not knowing what 2020 was going to be like, when I brought on my 2020 Ambassador team, you were the only person that I hadn’t met in person. And I was like, Oh, she’s just too cool to like, say no to.

Tina Rushing
I appreciate that. I always I have to say so currently has this whole like application process to become ambassador. And I was looking at it. And I was like, hmm, that’d be cool. And I started writing and I wrote a button. I’ll be

Carly Someplace
like, Oh my gosh, so much pages. Yeah, I

Tina Rushing
kept writing and I cuz I was like, I’m super emotional. I didn’t realize how emotional I would get talking about stuff. Yeah, until I was like a paragraph in. I was like, Oh, well, I’m committed now.

Carly Someplace
I’m committed now. Carly knows about me from

Tina Rushing
this obligation. Pretty much. And then I forgot about it. Because it was such a long time. I didn’t realize like what I wrote. Right? Truly. And then it was like one of those moments where you were like, yeah, why I read it. I let someone else read it. We were like we had to and I was like, What did I do? What did I say? Oh, well.

Carly Someplace
I mean, I just I love your ambassador application. And we can, we can probably chat a little bit about what was in there. Because I just think you’re such a phenomenal human and an inspiration to so many women. So you know, I love you.

Tina Rushing
I love you too. Obviously, we’re still here today.

Carly Someplace
We’re still here today. It’s true. It’s very true. But so one of the other things that punk rock saves lives that does that I love is you guys have your online communities as well. And so you have obviously like your bigger punk rock saves lives fan pages, and grew up where you guys get, you know, volunteers and different things like that, to hell out of for all of these festivals or smaller private events and different things like that, which is amazing. And it’s such a cool community community to be in. But one of my favorite things that you guys are such an advocate for is mental health, which is absolutely huge. And I love that you have your mental health community. And then whoever already had on the on the podcast. Yeah, Alex, Alex is the head of your sober community. So I think that it’s so amazing that you have these online support groups for mental health and sobriety that go along with the rest of your mission statement of doing good in your community and you’re building those communities and you’re getting to expand those communities and be inclusive with those communities and like I just like want to kiss the ground you walk on Jesus because I think you’re so cool. And I’m so proud of everything that you’re doing. And and watching these communities grow specifically within the last couple years because punk rock just saves lives just celebrated their second official birthday. Yeah. Which is crazy, because I feel like with where you’re at, you’ve been, you know, around forever, but it’s, it’s still, you’re still in your baby phases. We’re still

Tina Rushing
that’s why I’m always like, I always go, Oh, my little nonprofit, our little, but like, we’re, we’re bigger than my brain thinks we are. And that we probably should be because we’re are just second year and our first year was pandemic. Yeah, exactly. It was 100%. We weren’t out doing stuff we weren’t out in the world, we were virtually in the world, right?

Carly Someplace
Virtually in the world. And and I’m gonna throw this out there because I know a lot of people who are interested in working in nonprofits and all this other stuff. Tina, I am so very proud of you, because you went full time this year with punk rock saves lives. And I think that that is a huge accomplishment. And I’m so proud of you. And I think that that speaks volumes about how successful your communities are, and these events that you guys put on and all of these other things. And I think that it’s so amazing that you can be full time and be able to dedicate your passion to this. And I’m again, so proud of you. So

Tina Rushing
thank you. Yeah, I am. I’m still in shock.

Carly Someplace
Understandable, understandable.

Tina Rushing
I still feel like I need to be working 5000 jobs, but that’s who I am as a person. And I never put in like running a nonprofit, I really am doing multiple jobs. I’m there running the background, I do all of our back like I obviously I do a lot of website stuff. Eventually I would love to not do all the background things to make us operate. And then like we do the mental health and things like that. And I’m lucky to have people on my team like Alex who I don’t have to do anything, anything in the recovery support, especially because I’m not right. I don’t think anyone who’s not in recovery should run the recovery. I absolutely agree with that. Yes, correct. And so it’s nice to have people on my team who I can actually trust to like, just run it.

Carly Someplace
Yeah, it’s so so amazing. And then while we’re still talking about punk rock saves lives before we talk about us being partners in crime. I want you to talk about your husband a little bit the Robert over machine.

Tina Rushing
I like to call my husband like a D list celebrity and he’s really, like, it’s out of love. It really is. It’s like slightly mocking and he knows it cliche to his face. But it’s it’s out of love because he made that like I’m so proud of he’s made who he is, right? Yes. And to say like punk rock is a do it yourself. Rob is like the epitome of what that is. Yeah. over 10 years ago, he was a golf pro. Right. So like,

Carly Someplace
I didn’t know that. texture that Rob was a golf pro. That’s what he did. With his baby Mohawk.

Unknown Speaker
Like, I can’t picture.

Tina Rushing
I just want people to like wear how he goes golfing now, which is last because he’s always on tour doing that. Yeah, it’s like polo shirt, golf pants, studded belt chain. Like he’s still like, it’s like,

Carly Someplace
he was a golf pro is what you’re telling. Yeah,

Tina Rushing
he was up, like, that’s what he was. And he lost a good friend. And it wasn’t to like a bone cancer. But he lost a good friend. Like, in his 40s, right, which is way too young to lose. And his favorite band when he was younger, and like, my husband is in his 50s. So we’ll just because some of these, like the band reference is a little dated. His favorite band was the alarm when he was in high school. And I mean, like he is a senior photo that has him in an alarm t shirt, favorite band as you loved it. They’re great people. And they did a documentary of them going to Mount Everest. And they started a charity called Love hub strength where their whole mission was to sign people up for the National Bone marrow registry, which is why we have such an affinity for it. Yes. And he just called them afterwards going, Hey, how do I help? And they kept saying we don’t have any job openings were new baby nonprofit like we are now. And he’s like, I didn’t say I want a job. How do I help? What can I do? Right? What can I do? And he became their first volunteer. He became their first like volunteer lead, he would lead shows in Nashville where he was living. And a year later they called and asked him to join the team. Yeah. And that’s like, yeah, that’s all because he wanted to help. And then from there, he’s been on tour with all these bands. He is such a positive force. He genuinely loves to help like right now he’s on tour with that municipal waste and circle jerks. And he’s just driving them like he just had the opposite. Do you need to drive them to make some extra money for us and to like lay groundwork to do bigger tours with like circle jerks? Because that would be huge for us. Yep. And he keeps telling me that he’s like, he loves it. And he loves being with the people. And he’s made good connections. And we have some exciting news for the future. But he’s bored. Because he’s not activating. He’s not signing people up. He’s not talking to the crowd. He’s not doing his Rob thing.

Carly Someplace
Right, right, right, which I got to see again, during punk rock bowling, Rob in full force, which was such a treat. So at that point, Rob was on tour with anti flag and anti flag played at punk rock bullying, which was amazing. an anti flag is such a huge supporter of punk rock saves lives, which is amazing. And so watching Rob, get on stage and be able to talk about punk rock saves lives during anti flag set, and everything like that was just like, so freaking cool.

Tina Rushing
I mean, it’s where he thrives, he truly thrives, talking about what he believes in his passion, because he’s super passionate, right. And he’s good at making those connections. Because he’s true to what he loves, like what he believes, really,

Carly Someplace
I really, I think, something that I truly love, and is so recognizable in in you. And Rob, upon first meeting you both of you is that you are both truly such genuine humans, neither of you have like, I don’t think the ability to even tell a white lie. Like I can’t imagine either of you being like, Oh, you too, are just, you’re so genuine, you’re so true to yourselves. And I love that. Because in that authenticity of being yourselves, when it comes across as confidence, which we know is a huge topic that we talked about all of the time. And I think that it’s such a stellar example for other people. And in doing that, and then watching you too, taking that authenticity of yourself and only, I don’t want to say only but truly using so much of it to do good for other people is like so freaking cool. And it’s like, you look at you and there’s like, both of you and there’s not, there’s not a bone in your butt either of your bodies that you’re like, that’s a bad one, like everything about you, too, is, is just genuine and truly wants to help other people. And it makes me I’m so proud to know you guys into and to be, you know, part of punk rock saves lives in a tiny way. And it’s, it’s really cool. And I just, I love you guys.

Tina Rushing
You know, and we love you. And I think that’s why it works out. I think our passions for what we believe in and that goes with you too is matched. So it makes sense that we are running with the things that we’re running with. Yeah, so

Carly Someplace
Okay, so let’s talk about what you and I are working on because I’m so excited. So we just officially at the beginning of December launched this, which was big and scary. Um, because we’ve been working on it for the majority of a year. But someplace images and punk rock saves lives are putting on a women’s conference yesterday, Miami. Yeah. So originally, this was like, brought up as a joke. In my someplace boudoir community, what I had posted some, I think it was like a food post it was talking about like chicken wings and french fries. And, and kind of like, I want to say that the post generally as many posts in that community R was talking about, like, eat what you want to eat and be able to do what you want to do and don’t you know, hold back on like treating yourself to like some really good yummy food every once in a while. Just because society tells you you can’t or it’s quote unquote too fattening or bla bla bla bullshit. So I think that so that was like what the poster was about. And then one of our community members and Courtney, I actually know exactly who it was, was like, Oh my gosh, we should do a giant someplace images sleepover. So I was getting on a plane. Shocking. And Tina texted me and was like, oh, so I have no idea. Yeah. I think we should do a giant someplace in Missouri sleepover. We could do it as like a conference we should do and all this other stuff. And I was like, Oh my gosh, that sounds like so much fun. I’m getting on a plane. I’ll go on airplane mode. We’ll talk about it when I get off and Tina was like, great. So I get off my phone back on. And I have like 26 text messages from Tina. And she’s like, Okay, so I’ve narrowed it down to these three locations. This is what we’re looking at. I’m pretty sure that this hotel will work for us. And I’ve already set up a meeting with Dakota who’s our assistant so that we can get on on on Zoom and start planning all of this other stuff. These are the sponsors that we’re looking at and this and I was like, oh my god, do not

Tina Rushing
be left alone. You went on a plane like

Carly Someplace
you can’t be left alone. Brain went wild. Your brain went wild and plants like 80% of our conference in a three hour stretch? Yeah, yeah. Yeah, kind of pretty much so. So the Women’s Conference is October 6 through the ninth in October 2022, in Miami, Florida at the Palms Hotel, right on Miami Beach, which is absolutely gorgeous. So, Tina and I decided, if we were doing this, we had to like, go check it out by ourselves. So we’ve both flew to Miami in August to go stay at the palms and Oh, my God.

Tina Rushing
I’ve never been a place that just fits like, their style is just so they’re like, you feel like you’re in Miami. It’s like a weird concept.

Carly Someplace
It’s really weird. It feels very foreign. What did I Oh, I, I kept like, we were walking around in the whole time. I was like, I don’t feel like I’m in the United States. I don’t feel like I’m in the United States. And I finally was like, it reminds me of Egypt. And I think probably honestly, it’s more than like Cuban influence that comes into Miami but that like, tropical slower, like way of life with just like, using palm fronds as every bit of decoration and their fans, their fans, their lobby, their color choices, everything’s like pinks and oranges and bright and bold and like so that’s so very Miami, but like, oh my gosh, the stonework and and then, and that’s just like walking into the hotel,

Tina Rushing
much like walking, like when you’re in the lobby,

Carly Someplace
lobby. And so Tina and I were both like, Oh, my God. And then they just have, you know, everything that we were looking for, they have all these beautiful conference rooms, we’re gonna have so many amazing speakers. And just all of these different people and vendors and philanthropy events, obviously will have punkrock saves lives there to get people signed up for the bone marrow, donor list and be able to do so many other things throughout the weekend. But so much is also based around, like, What are we eating? And how good is this food going to be? And we’re super excited. So we’re also going to be offering self defense classes we’re going to be offering we’re going to have like, obviously, like events and mixers, and parties, multiple reasons to dress up. So I really want to, like let’s talk about Friday night of the conference because that’s like kinda all you being like, yay.

Tina Rushing
So we’re doing a like a punk rock night. And we will have I’ve been talking to some amazing female bands. So we will Yes, we will actually have some wonderful female punk rock bands performing that night and it will be a show for us, which I think is something that you know, get other places like a nice intimate show with your lady friends and you don’t have to worry about any other guys getting in your way. Yeah,

Carly Someplace
I’m so excited. So yeah, Friday is gonna be our, our badass night. And that’s like we we really want people to feel like Tina said like in a safe space, and being able to like, honestly, a big part of this is dress however you want. And that’s like such a powerful thing that I think that a lot of women don’t get the opportunity to do especially in this way of like, badass night. So while we were at punk rock bowling, there was a day that we wore we all wore fishnet tights and like little booty shorts and it was great because it was like 97 degrees outside legitimately an actual 97 degrees outside not

Tina Rushing
I never thought it could be so miserable in September but I was wrong.

Carly Someplace
Very hot, but we there were just so many people again being at punk rock bowling, everybody was so non judgmental like and and people just kept coming up to all of us and being like, you guys look amazing. And like you look so cute. And Tina was legit wearing like, frilly booty short underwear.

Tina Rushing
I like the little like back in the day like with the bow on the back. Yep,

Carly Someplace
with the bow in the back and it was just so amazing. And so we really want that Friday night focus of the conference to be able to be like where your fish nights where you’re like pleather booty shorts and be able to like be as big of a badass as you want wear those shoes that like you never get to wear that like sit in your closet with the studs on them and you’re like, oh I need an opportunity here.

Tina Rushing
This is the opportunity to feel as badass as you want to and whatever that is to you like truly, whatever that looks like. Do you have that leather jacket you have no reason to wear? leather leggings are super in right now.

Carly Someplace
Yeah, they are Yeah, they are

Tina Rushing
everywhere. And that’s like the best part is you can wear what you want.

Carly Someplace
Yeah, exactly. Which is so exciting. I think that there’s not enough opportunity for women to just feel comfortable like that. And wear honestly whatever you want. I think that that’s such a, we we are so used to our culture of being judged for what we wear and I’m so excited. I mean, on so many levels for this conference, but truly, both Friday and Saturday nights we’ll just call them parties essentially, are for people to get dressed up and feel like a frickin million bucks. And be confident in it and be surrounded by others who are going to uplift you. And I am so like beyond in love with that.

Tina Rushing
I I look at it, honestly like these nights is my first time ever doing a boudoir shoot with you? Yeah, it was a it was ambassador retreat. It was like this is magnified by a lot of people.

Carly Someplace
I truly, I mean, like, I have to say, Tina, it takes a certain soul to be like, Okay, here’s your first first boudoir shoot. Let’s do it in front of six other people.

Tina Rushing
Yeah, yeah. And I honestly don’t think I’d want it any other way. Because that’s what was special to me is, I’ve never, I wasn’t really good in my body. At that point in time. I didn’t feel comfortable in who I was as a woman completely. That was a big part of my 2020 is like to explore that. And that’s what that kind of gave me my jumpstart because I was in lingerie being catcalled by other women I respected

Carly Someplace
that is such a good way to catcalled in such a good way.

Tina Rushing
Positive like the only way I think I’d ever want to be catcalled in my life by other women just honestly showing how much they appreciate me and my human like as my body. And I don’t always see that. So it’s like, it’s you can’t beat it. And that’s what I’m excited about to see is people dressing up and what they feel best in. And then a bunch of other women going yeah, you that’s exactly how you should feel backstage because you look phenomenal.

Carly Someplace
Yeah. I’m so excited for it. And then so Saturday night of the conference is gonna be a little bit on the flip side, which is gonna be bougie night. So like seeing go I am and sequins and like and maybe you don’t want to wear sequins like maybe glam for you is this slinky black dress like totally here for it. And we’re super excited. That is the night Okay, so the other thing that happened within this whole original posts thread was talking about having a case so fountain a fountain of queso, which I think sounds like a great idea. And Tina thing sounds like a great idea. So Magda from Amber goddess designs is also one of our CO conspirators on putting all of this together. And Magda is like, do you want me to show you 35 videos of cheese fountains toppling over? And we’re like, No, sure you can but we’re still having a cheese fountain.

Tina Rushing
We’re going to do it right now

Carly Someplace
we are going to do it right and I’m so excited and so and what was again great about being at the palms, the food was amazing. Amazing, the I mean the drinks were amazing that we had we sat down and had a charcuterie board that was like out of this world we had like just the whole experience of being there we were so in love with and both of us I think just felt really relaxed there even though we were obviously there on like a business trip and you know scouting out locations and but you walk through the doors there and it’s just like this sense of like oh wow and that’s so what I want to be able to provide for everybody and have like this amazing experience and and then we have it like we’re just talking about parties like not even though like fun amazing stuff. I think a big one obviously we’re going to be on the beach in Miami and we have a not private beach but like private entrance directly onto the beach in Miami which is so cool.

Tina Rushing
And they have people there directly to help you like have an umbrella and your own area and that’s all ours like it’s all the palms human

Carly Someplace
right we also both got very sunburned while we were there. We

Tina Rushing
what’s funny I’m gonna say like this is like a warning to anyone who’s like super excited because I really am but we get sunburned under an umbrella

Carly Someplace
because all right because those because the sand is so sparkling and white that it reflected back up onto our at that point, very pale skin for both of us.

Tina Rushing
And I didn’t even believe I was sunburn. I looked at Carly and I was like, Oh, girl, you look rough. And like, we get ready for a little mini boudoir session. She’s like, ah, Tina, you’re back.

Carly Someplace
You just because we were both wearing our Amber goddess swimwear, too. And so we’re just very, like distinctive lines. And I was like, oh, Tina, Tina, you have lie.

Tina Rushing
And I have, like, so many so many I was here for let’s be honest, because the beach was just, I, it was so nice. It’s so nice, so

Carly Someplace
amazing. And just again, like peaceful. And so obviously taking advantage of that, like beach scene, we’re going to have and I feel like this is probably gonna intimidate some people a little bit, but we’re gonna have like our like body positive beach day, and pool party. And so being able to do that and have an encourage everybody to wear a swimsuit, I personally will always encourage any, any female to wear a bikini, because I think that it’s a very empowering thing. Especially I’ve heard from so many women, that they haven’t worn a bikini since like, elementary school, or middle school, or anything like that. And I think that it’s such a reclamation of power to be like, here’s my body, and it’s beautiful the way that it is. And to be able to have that type of space and again, like to be called by these amazing women around you. And so we’re gonna have a phenomenal beach day and Pool Party, and be able to have kinda like a red carpet type photo. Yes, space, I don’t even know, I will see where we set it up, which I’m super excited about. And that is, that’s what I’m going to be personally photographing. I won’t photograph anything else throughout the weekend, because we’ve got so many other things going on. But I am so excited to capture an image of everybody feeling confident in their bathing suit, which I think is really cool. And obviously a big group shot of everybody feeling comfortable and confident in their bodies out next to the pool, which is so insanely gorgeous. And I’m so so excited about it. So

Tina Rushing
yeah, it’s a perfect space for us to be ourselves in. Yes. And I think that’s the best part is we didn’t pick this overly big resort. We didn’t pick something where it’s going to be tons of other families and things it really will like we will be the majority people and

Carly Someplace
we will be the majority. And it’s going to be just amazing. And then obviously, we won’t spill the beans on everything. But we will, we’ll slowly announce that as we get closer, but it’s going to be so absolutely amazing. And then obviously, so what we’re doing, I mean not to be like here’s promo about what we’re doing, we will be we are offering ticket sales right now our tickets are in their early bird pricing. And early bird pricing just goes through the end of December. And that both early bird pricing and all of the pricing that we have even up leading up to the event can be broken down into payment plans. So obviously, the further out we are being now versus you know, getting into 2022 itself, being able to break things down into payment plans is makes it super manageable. And it’s going to be so much fun. So the general pricing right now with earlybird pricing is $1,400 per person. And that includes all of your food. And the hotel. Yeah, for the entire time. So like everything’s included, the majority of the classes are included, we will have paid extra classes, and those are going to be like, like classes that the only reason they’re paid is because we have to pay for materials for them. So like think like a painting class. Right? Or what’s another one that we have? It’s a paid class I’m trying to remember we have a painting subclass, we have a like vision boarding class. Yeah, it is going to be super cool we have but the majority of our classes and activities and speakers all of our speakers will be free and included in your ticket and so there’s only a couple extra things for you no add ons, and forgot us designs. We’ll be having a VIP lingerie after party. And that’s

Tina Rushing
something that yes, I’m just gonna I want to put that out now that’s going to be probably the best like hidden gem, special gem applicant,

Carly Someplace
especially because it’s potentially and I don’t like it’s potentially going to be on the rooftop hotel. And it’s gonna be so cool.

Tina Rushing
It’s gonna it’s I feel like we we talked about these different ideas and then I’m like, but this might be my new favorite. I don’t think we can like it perfect. It’s like

Carly Someplace
it’s like I’m so excited and and I’m so excited because like, I want people to experience watching like essentially a fashion show because that’s what it is a laundry show. Live for one and being able to see the body inclusivity that’s going to be going with it and so and the only the only other time I’ve ever seen anything like that, which is like not a live event is when Rihanna does her savage X Fenty, yeah shows which we have this year on this year’s brand retreat. We watched the savage X Fenty lingerie show. And it was amazing. And it was just so nice to sit again, in a room full of people, a room full of women that were just so incredibly diverse and diverse in all of our bodies and to watch on screen, the diversity in bodies. And that was so nice. And just like a reaffirmation of why I do what I do is to showcase all bodies and show that all bodies are beautiful. And it was so so amazing.

Tina Rushing
And that’s something I’m ready for, like I’m ready for that to be normal. Like sound, I’m ready for it to be normal and ready for me not to be emotional about it. Because I watched it at my house and I was emotional going, why isn’t this how I was right? Like, why?

Carly Someplace
Why is this not what I always pictured, and I just can’t wait for years from now that to be the norm 100% and all celebrated? Exactly. And I think that I mean not to toot our horns, but you and I are our wave makers and and people who change things like that, and I’m possibly the most excited for the conference to have other people experience it. Like we’ve been experiencing it for the last, you know, couple years of knowing each other and pushing, pushing our friends and pushing each other and pushing, you know, the communities that we run to be that inclusive and to show bodies and to show you know everything like this. And I think that it’s such a powerful thing that potentially until you partake in something like that you can’t quite fully grasp and it is it’s really cool. And I’m so excited,

Tina Rushing
like opens a can of worms and like the best possible way because I never truly notice. I guess like we’re all in our own little movie, right? We’re all like the center of our little story. Exactly. And now when I’m out and about and I see a woman walk, rocking whatever she’s rocking, like I feel the need to let her know she looks fantastic. And like it’s that moment of I like to say like the Drunk girls in the bathroom always having your bath. Oh, oh, but like, in the middle of the day of a workday, like at lunch I store at Walmart. Like that’s yeah, it should be more out in the open and not just in our ladies like bathroom.

Carly Someplace
Exactly. i Yes. I mean, I feel like if we really could just take that like, bar bathroom energy that we all as ladies have walked in and somebody is like somebody sitting there and you’re like, you look amazing. And they’re like, Girl You look amazing. Like that is that’s the energy we need all the freakin time

Tina Rushing
for everything because the more we lift each other up, the more we’re going to be in this world that’s just the normal like it’s been normal to celebrate each person as they are right and not to have to feel any like negativity about it.

Carly Someplace
I 100% agree. So I’m so excited. I just I can’t I can’t even put into correct words how excited I am about this conference and for it to be both with punkrock saves lives and to place images, Amber’s goddess designs, we’re gonna have so many other amazing small women owned vendors there. Tina has managed to get us some really cool sponsorships. And it’s gonna be amazing. Is that Walter?

Tina Rushing
Yeah, yeah, like any noise outside and my dogs are ready to attack.

Carly Someplace
Please, please tell our listeners just a little bit about Walter. I think it’s relevant.

Tina Rushing
For me, Welch’s should be the spokesperson for everyone’s life. He really should. Water is a little Corgi. And he’s named after my grandfather, which is really appropriate because they both have the same personality. And he’s the most loving like he doesn’t his whole life is to love and be in the moment and be so present that he like ignores everything else. His brain Spitfires and like the moment he meets you, you are his new favorite person on the planet. Yes. Like to the point where he’s like you don’t know him and he’s in the bathroom with you wondering why you want him out. I’m there now I’m your best friend. Let me be there with you right now. So true, every moment and like that’s just who he is. We go on watts. And he expects every person to like say hello to him. And when they don’t he sits pouts and stares them down. He just expects everyone to know that he’s there to love. I love it. Walter should be the spokesperson for everything I do. I like to say all the time. Like what would Walter do in this moment? He would just love every second like there’s no just happy Happy Little Corgi but happy Corgi and like no fear. I like that. There’s no fear about him. And like he’s so easy to like, be okay in any situation like he gets super excited. He misses like tries to jump on the couch, Mrs hits it. And then he looked at the couch like couch. What did you do with him because he was so amped and then he just jumps up and everything’s cool, but it’s like that moment of looking like a couch.

Carly Someplace
Couch. This is your fault. You know,

Tina Rushing
not i

Carly Someplace
Oh, I love it so much. I love it so much.

Tina Rushing
It’s the energy. I wish we can all go into this new year.

Carly Someplace
I truly agree. Like just love so hard on other people and think you are great. And that other people should love on you all the time.

Tina Rushing
Yes, you should just love and like he does. He loves his sisters with his entire and we have mold we afford outs yes a little out of control. And he loves his sisters with his entire being. And I’ve never seen like dogs really just that like aren’t you know, I mean, they weren’t from the same litter. They’re very different dogs, I got them in different states. Yes, my life and and actual states. And he is over the moon about them. Like the moment they move. He wants to cuddle. He wants to love them. He’s looking their faces constantly.

Carly Someplace
Walter is a lover.

Tina Rushing
Yes. And we could all benefit from being a little bit more like that.

Carly Someplace
I love it. I love it so much. I know I got distracted earlier when I was talking about pricing. So she probably could finish that thought. So early bird pricing goes through the end of December, which is $1,400. And then starting in January, pricing will bump up to $1,600. And that is through I want to say April for the conference. And again. So everything is being able to be split down into payment plans, which is a huge thing that punkrock saves lives did for us which Thank you, Greg saves lives is running our ticketing. So that is fantastic. And here’s the other thing that I’m super excited about is how our rooms are going to be which is sleepover style, which is a mess. So I have done this at every retreat that I’ve done so far as someplace images is that i If you don’t have people that you know, we’re going to put you with people, and we’re going to be able to find people who are going to fit well for you and put you in a room together. And so it’s it’s so nice. And so sleepover style will be for people to a room, we’re obviously going to have like, okay, you know, are you a light sleeper or a heavy sleeper, you know, different things like that. So it’s going to be super nice to put people in the right room together and hopefully have people be able to make new friends if you don’t have friends that are already going with you. And so and it’s it’s super powerful, because again, we were talking about last year’s brand retreat, and I put Tina in with Alex and and they had only met I really feel like it was what about a month and a half prior to that.

Tina Rushing
And we only met once like that’s the thing. So like, we were brand ambassadors, we I don’t even think I knew I was gonna room with her. And we just realized we were both in Denver. So we went and got tacos like that’s as close as we knew each other.

Carly Someplace
So I went Tina and Alex together and Tina and Alex are best friends now.

Tina Rushing
I don’t know what my life would be without her. We guess went to drag queen bingo lesson.

Carly Someplace
Drag Queen. Bingo. Yes.

Tina Rushing
Everything I wanted more, and I have all of the things that match their outfits because they were on fire.

Carly Someplace
That’s fantastic. I went drag queen bingo in my area. I don’t know if that exists. I should look.

Tina Rushing
Look, I’ve had it in every state like every time I’ve lived in except for like we’re in West Virginia, which makes sense. And it’s it’s incredible and wonderful and the best thing go experience ever had.

Carly Someplace
I love that so much so much. So okay, so let’s talk a little bit about you, Tina, as the wonderful, amazing, phenomenal human that I know who is an inspiration to so many people, obviously for many reasons that we’ve already talked about for punk rock saves lives for being my co conspirator in this conference. Or you know so many different things and um, but I want to talk about so the the couple of questions that I have for everybody on the podcast because I think that they’re very relevant for everybody is is kind of talking about our own journeys with self love, and kind of how we’ve moved forward in loving ourselves. And so you mentioned earlier that focusing on yourself in 2020 and reclaiming a little bit of your womanhood so my what my first question is like, what hat was or like has been a really big like turning point in your self love journey. I again like think you’re like the most authentic people ever and I love I would like you because it’s December, Tina rushing What are you wearing today?

Tina Rushing
Um, so today I’m in my Christmas Coca Cola sweater. And it has like white fuzzy balls on it. It’s the most it’s my it’s my favorite. I honestly would wear it every day. But just find that out because in December I am in a different Christmas outfit because I have enough to like do two December’s worth of Christmas things every day.

Carly Someplace
And I love it so much. So much.

Tina Rushing
I then I have my Chuck Norris Christmas t shirt sweater that says I’m going to deck your halls.

Carly Someplace
I love it. I just I wanted that like introduction for anybody who doesn’t know you that like Tina is Tina loves Christmas.

Tina Rushing
I love I love holidays. But Christmas is my favorite.

Carly Someplace
You love holidays, and I love it. And Tina is like, like, so.

Tina Rushing
I don’t want to say quirky because

Carly Someplace
I but I think that that’s kind of the right word like I, I think it’s the best. It’s the best word. And I don’t like the negative connotation of quirky, like, I mean, only in the positive connotation of quirky of like, you would look at Tina and be like, I just want that amount of confidence to wear all of these things that bring Tina’s such joy. And so I think that’s a that’s an important preface and me as your friend knowing that it’s December, so you’re obviously wearing a holiday sweater of some variety, if not a full holiday dress and stockings and the whole nine yards. And so I think that a lot of that ties into that question of like, what has been a turning point in your self love, and or even confidence journey? So

Tina Rushing
yeah, and I guess I’ll even start with I’ve been very fortunate like this is the weird like caveat is I haven’t had a lot of I feel we all look at ourselves, and we look in the mirror and we’re like, ah, and then like, you look back and you’re like, Man, I rocked it. Yes, exactly. And the past couple of years, I’ve really just own the fact of who I was. And I honestly think that I’m very fortunate I was in the theater. And I always have owned my clothes. Like I always have been the kind of person where I’m like, I will wear striped sparkly tights with a plaid shirt and be a flower thing and be like, This is me. I don’t think I ever realized that was just who I was as a human being. And that’s why I’m cool. With quirky. I like taking those things that kind of have a negative thing. And like, just saying it is me like during fall, I am a pumpkin spice legging wearing boot person with scarves. And I’m like, I am proud to be basic and yes, yeah, when a full time here for it like that is me. And I just had someone told me I was quirky a couple months ago, and I looked at them and I was like, Huh. And it felt weird to me. And then I was like, No, you know what I am? I am and I’m happy about it. But it’s under those clothes. And it’s that like inside voice where I’ve struggled heavily in the last decade, probably I when I was young, a young 20 something, I lost the ability to have kids. And I took what I felt for a little while as like being a woman right? Like, that’s your even if you didn’t want kids like that’s your one. That’s what makes you a lady. Yes. And my young brain, and I didn’t feel that I didn’t really love who I was in my own skin. I could put anything I wanted on that. And I’d be kind of okay, right or I’ll ignore, I was really good at throwing myself into everything, which I still do. But now I kind of I can be in my own skin while I’m working really hard. Right? And I wasn’t doing that before. And that’s why I really wanted to be an ambassador with you because I joined this boudoir group of women who actually looked like they felt good in their human being. Yeah. And love themselves. And I that’s like a crazy that was a crazy concept to me. And I like like to I was as a human about like community standards and being a friend right and those kind of things, but not like just as a a being in the world.

Carly Someplace
Right. Which I think is something that a lot of people struggle with and don’t really talk about

Tina Rushing
right and i It’s like one of those things right that you don’t think of and then when you’re like watching other people be authentic to themselves like truly, you’re like Oh, I’m not great. I’m I’m really not I mean yeah, I wear during Christmas time his suspenders with Christmas lights on them. And I started doing that like while I was working at a bank so that was good.

Carly Someplace
I still I mean you’ve told me about it. Tina and my brain still just doesn’t.

Tina Rushing
I feel like one of these days you have to meet my friend calling because he would always be like, Oh, Tina, that’s too much. She went to Tina. One day, it was raining and I couldn’t find an umbrella. And I had an umbrella hat in my car. So I put that on and like walked in. And he was like, Tina,

Carly Someplace
which is what I love about you. Like, what?

Tina Rushing
What are you doing? And I was like, I did you want me to be wet? I don’t understand.

Carly Someplace
I also just it’s just the it’s the casual like I had an umbrella hat in my car. That is also like the most Tina statement of Tina’s statements that I know. Yeah,

Tina Rushing
I actually don’t even know why I did have it in my car. Like I look at it. I’m like, it just was there.

Carly Someplace
It just existed. It’s fine. It was just

Tina Rushing
in my car next to my balloon animal supplies and like, I don’t know. Exactly. But that I think that’s all part of it. Right? Like, it’s those moments where I can be pretty much me, but in my head, I am not always great, right? I’m not right. Perfect. I’ve people on the outside from my whole life. I’ve probably said, Oh, no. I mean, that’s Tina. That’s just enough. That’s who she is. And I’m like, yeah, that is but like, I don’t really always like myself.

Carly Someplace
Yeah. And I think that we all really, really struggle with that. And I think that it’s been, it’s, again, it’s not something that people really talk about. And I think that that’s the hard part is that, you know, I, I think you’re correct, that people look at you, and they’re like, that’s Tina, and that’s who she is. And she’s is so confident and all this other stuff. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that we always feel it on the inside or feel comfortable. Underneath those clothes, or, or it’s just specifically in our own skin. And that’s a lot of that. I mean, like you were saying, and having, you know, the ability to have kids just taken away from you is even if you wanted didn’t want, you know, all of that other stuff. And it’s, it’s, you know, so much tied into what we’re pushed to as women as like, oh, you need to be a mother and you need to like, that’s ground into our, our brains from young childhood. And then I picked up on that family. Everything is about family and everything about is, you know, when you grow up in Are you going to have, you know, a husband and two kids and a dog and a white picket fence and all, quote unquote, the American dream and I just don’t think that a that that’s mostly realistic anymore and be that that’s not really a, a, a good, I don’t even want to say like, thing to try and get ourselves to be I think that, that it’s, well, it’s very antiquated in so many ways of you know, being a housewife and doing these other things. And

Tina Rushing
yeah, it goes back like and I it just goes back to that back in the day. That’s what that’s all we were there for. Right? Right. We were there to be a mother to be a wife to have a household. And that’s great, right? Like, that’s a beautiful thing to be able to have kids to have a family,

Carly Someplace
right. And for some people, and I will preface with this, for some people that is 100% what you want, and that is so good, because that’s what you want. And that’s okay. But if it’s not what you want, even more, you don’t have to be that person. You don’t have to be, you know, a housewife and a mom and different things like that. But I can understand that in your early 20s. Having that identity that’s been pushed on to you as a woman being taken away is Yeah.

Tina Rushing
is weird. It really is because I never and there’s something I’m sure we’ll talk about in other things and other staff about me because I have a weird background, but like, I never really wanted to have kids because my mom had a mental illness. And I never wanted to make that continue. Cuz I’m pretty sure it’s like a genetic thing. So Right. I mean, like, we have those things, right. And I knew that from the time I was in high school, right. But the moment it was taken away, that wasn’t my choice. And I think that’s the biggest thing. It’s your choice. Yes. When it wasn’t my choice anymore. I still think I still get sad about it. I see friends have kids. And in my head. I’m like, I know. That’s never I’m happy where we are. That’s never something I need. Right? I get sad, right? Yeah. Because it’s not my choice anymore. And it’s taken away. And I think that was the big thing. Of I kept feeling like all these things with my body wasn’t my choice anymore. Right? And I just kind of left it there. I was done. And I didn’t know these things we weren’t talking about in whatever time that was what 2011

Carly Someplace
I was gonna say I was like early 20 teens. Yeah, my

Tina Rushing
brain like stopped working. I was like, How old was I Where was And it was like, in that time where we weren’t talking about body positivity, we weren’t talking about a lot of women’s things. I mean, sure, there’s always like that women empowerment. But it wasn’t, wasn’t the same. The internet was still like newer Facebook, like, Myspace just ended.

Carly Someplace
Yes, my face just ended. You’re correct.

Tina Rushing
That’s where we were in this timeframe. I didn’t have like, I had a laptop for school. But like, in my internship, I didn’t have a computer anymore. I had my phone. It did not do as many nice things as it does now. No, no. And I think that’s the benefit of having these online communities, because we can start talking about the stuff that’s in our heads. And to know that we’re not alone, and that we can actually start saying it because like, even when I wrote my application to you, even when I wrote my application as being an ambassador, saying, I don’t feel like I’m a woman all the time, I don’t feel that I don’t feel sexy in my skin, which I think everyone should. And I don’t feel like I don’t appreciate my body for what it does. Because it doesn’t do everything. I think it could. Yes. And it’s those moments where I was writing it out. And I even I believe that then Right? Like I believe it on the surface level. That’s what I wanted. And then over the past year, I was more active. And the someplace images, community. Yeah. And I realized I didn’t even know what I was, what I was needing until being active with other women and being able to talk about it. Yeah. And I think that’s the difference. It’s having lady friends that you can actually say stuff to Yeah, and to be open about and find people who’ve been there with you, or they understand where you feel and talking about how they feel in their bodies. And you’re like, Wait, that’s how I feel. Yeah,

Carly Someplace
it’s it’s, we, we keep so much. And because we’re like, there’s no way nobody anybody else can feel this way. It’s just me, it’s just me, it’s just me. And it’s truly not we are truly not alone. In especially, again, so much of this is just ingrained into our brains from the time that we’re kids like I, you know, I’ve talked about how Gen Z is, is so lucky because of their access to the internet and their access to other people and other cultures and other everything because I can see other people like Gen Z is like wildly themselves. And I’m envious. Like, I wish, oh, gosh, I wish I had been who I am now, as a teenager. Like, I can’t even imagine how different my life would be if I could take this, this person who who knows who they are, and who has spent a lot of time finding that a lot of time working on that. And I’m not going to you know, discount myself for that. But I think that the communities that Gen Z has because of their access to even let’s say tic tock and Instagram and and being able to use platforms like that. And Facebook, though they’re like Facebook’s for old people. It’s fine. I’m old. I’m okay with that. But being able to have those type of communities and then and have conversations with strangers about these things, right, like, rocking it.

Tina Rushing
Yeah, cuz we didn’t have that. I mean, what we had when we were younger, is like an AOL AOL chat room. Right? Like, that was a crazy concept to think because it’s like, that’s what kind of Facebook is by like, I’m like, but in a broader community like, Oh, right. Yes. Um, so like, we like started those little things. But I would love I always think, and I see people like say, oh, social media, or our connection to the world is like, really, like hurting things. And I don’t think that’s a true. No, I think there are moments, yeah, we could be a little less disconnected, we could be a little less connected. Because there’s like some things that are so crazy, because we’re so in tune, but also, we know so much more now. We’re able to not feel alone from people who are like in a different country than you.

Carly Someplace
Absolutely. So important,

Tina Rushing
right? Yes, yes. And I couldn’t like I think about it all the time. Like I said, my mom had a mental illness. And if I had the tools I have now I would not have been as angry with her for the majority of my life because I would have understood right? And even when I was younger, I might like my grandparents kept going she’s sick. You know, like she’s sick. Like you have to and I like I understood that concept on like very kid level.

Carly Someplace
Right? Right. Right. But I think but as as kids like in your brain sick is you know, you’re in the hospital, you’re going to the doctor, you broke your arm you you know that’s what that’s what Let’s think about it in the way if that’s what children’s books show you, right, and that’s sick. So like many have you have the thermometer in your mouth? Like that’s sick? Not, not mental health not? No,

Tina Rushing
it was a different though the stigma was real back then very low, real today, but like back then it was a totally different world. Yeah. And that’s the thing is like, even in college, I took some Lego classes. And that’s what it was. It was classes and it was me learning what OCD was for the first time, cuz I never heard talking about on the phone once. Right, right. And then going to classes and being taught by Professor but now it’s like, I went down a weird rabbit hole a couple of days ago where I was watching Tic TOCs while I was watching Tic TOCs of people talking about their OCD. And I cried for a day. Because it was never she never talked to me. It was never an open thing and open dialogue because it wasn’t open. Right? Right. And, and now Tik Tok, and Instagram and Facebook, and all these things. It’s an open thing of people going, if I don’t do these things, my brain tells me someone I love is going to die. Right? And that’s what I needed to hear when I was a kid. Yeah, were those things and i That’s why I think we’re in a better world with, like, body positivity getting there is we can talk about it. Absolutely. And we have these communities, even though I still will always be an advocate for Facebook. Yes, me too. Because like, tick tock, yeah, that’s great. You can watch videos and like comment and stuff. But like Facebook, you could actually build. It’s like being in one of those like clubs in high school. But yeah, from all over.

Carly Someplace
Yeah. Yeah. It’s so cool.

Tina Rushing
Yeah. And I feel like that’s an amazing thing. It’s like going with a someplace images group, or even the punk rock saves lives mental health community. It’s 1000s of people, not from your same town. Yes. But have the same needs and wants and beliefs that you do that you get to interact with every day. Yeah, it’s so cool.

Carly Someplace
I love it. Okay, so my second question is, so what books or media or people have helped you specifically most in your journey with your body and coming to like, terms and acceptance and doing different things like that? Tell me more about that.

Tina Rushing
Okay, so I mean, this is not just because I’m talking to you right now. But you were probably my biggest influence to start this whole journey. Thank you. i Sorry, don’t cry.

Carly Someplace
It’s fine. Everything’s fine.

Tina Rushing
It’s fine. It’s it was your openness and want for other people to feel beautiful and to feel good in their skin and to love themselves. That made me want to be an ambassador in the first place. It made me want to be part of the community it just talking to you on a regular basis. Like we’re friends, talking in a normal chat this about life in general. It’s inspiring and amazing. So that really started that truly started my journey into like, self love and believing in myself. And then I go to being in like this music world. And honestly, it’s not a like a famous person that’s helped me. Click I believe so much that you will be famous my friend. Um, it’s seeing people in like, in the punk world, of being true to themselves and me wanting to really feel what that feels like. My husband and I we met and got married on the flogging Molly cruise,

Carly Someplace
which I love so much.

Tina Rushing
It’s it’s an amazing experience. I highly recommend. It’s like a weird family reunion every year. It’s so great. And it’s kind of like you were talking about about our conference about like, a pool day. Being on the deck of a flogging Molly cruise, you’re going to see men in speedos and I mean like men and matching speedos with like a matching head dress thing there was a guy that like he wore like one of those wrestling masks that matches Speedo majestic and I mean if people like that who are themselves and it’s all genders it’s a wonderfully truly amazing on inspiring thing of you wear what feels great for you. Does the guy that wears like a squid hat his name’s Andy He’s incredible a squid out with a to to pretty much the entire tank. I just love this. That’s and that’s who he is like you don’t I mean like that’s who he is. And a in an outfit being himself like loving his life and that’s what all these people I first went on that cruise in 2016 70. So my that and it was so inspiring to see normal people being themselves. Yes, yes. And that’s what’s inspiring to me. I feel like it’s easier for someone to talk about it in the mainstream. Like, I love pink. I will always like her. Oh, I look up to her as a human right? Yeah. But it’s also like, for me, it’s more inspiring to see my neighbor. Right? Killing it and me going, if she can do it, I can do it. Yes. Because we’re, we’re normal. Like, we don’t have a bunch of people working for us. We don’t have a bunch of things, doing things. And that’s what really inspires me is people who are true to themselves feeling it. And I’m really thankful the punk community has gave back to me. I love that. It’s a good building block. Oh, yeah, I highly recommend it. It’s like, what you witnessed at punk rock bowling, but you know, like, I belt in the,

Carly Someplace
on the boat. And I mean, we know I love boats. I didn’t need I didn’t do to work on a cruise ship for two years. That’s a whole other thing. And I feel like maybe I should just do a whole podcast about ships. It’s a weird experience. You should it’s it’s such a weird experience. It’s such a it’s such a unique experience beings and in the way of, you know, crew versus you guys were being guests, but very different. And it’s a lot of a lot of melding of, of cultures and ideas and things like that on ships. But we know we know I love a good ship. So

Tina Rushing
I could not recommend going on I like, and I like a normal cruise. Like, right? I’ve done normal cruises. And that’s great if you are fully in they’re awesome and amazing. Yeah, exactly. Um, but there’s something about being on a music cruise, because not only do you have like diversity, and people from all over, but you have that same common interest. Oh, yeah. It’s huge. It’s huge. And it’s weird. And I mean it like, um, like we’d mentioned Alex, she was never a punk rock person. Yeah, she tells me that all of the time. And she’s now learning like meeting more and more of our people. And so have you. Um, yeah. And it’s pretty amazing. It’s like an amazing, like, we love each other. And we believe like in this one love atmosphere. And it’s a beautiful concept. And it’s all because of music on a boat.

Carly Someplace
Yep. And I love that so much music on a boat.

Tina Rushing
On a boat, and I’m so excited. We’re going again in March.

Carly Someplace
No exciting. So exciting. Okay, and then my last question for you, my Tina, dear. And I know we will have another episode I do. I want to dive deeper into on our next episode with you a little bit more into mental health. And the advocacy that punk rock saves lives has for mental health. And we can speak deeper on that. Because I think that it’s an extremely important subject. But I wanted listeners to get to know you before we dive into an even heavier subject

Tina Rushing
that when I get emotional about it every

Carly Someplace
time I do to it, I think that I think that there’s a lot of a lot of emotion. And it’s a highly charged topic in so many ways. And I think that and I do I wanted everybody to get to know you just a little bit more. And I you know, always I know that. I’ll thank you in advance for the fact that I know we will both be very vulnerable when we do have that discussion. And I I think that, again, that authenticity that you have, and your vulnerability are two things that I truly love and appreciate about you so so very much. And I I wanted people to to get to know a little bit of christmas lightbulb.

Tina Rushing
Yeah. This was a good little before you asked me that last question. I feel like you did a good little round

Carly Someplace
like, welcome to the world of Tina rushing.

Tina Rushing
Tina jumped down. We’re doing a conference gonna be great does this. And

Carly Someplace
then we’re gonna talk about mental health.

Tina Rushing
We deal with every day.

Carly Someplace
Exactly. Exactly. So my last question. And and I think that honestly, this, I think I know the answer, because I think that it’s going to tie into mental health is what is one piece of advice that you would give your younger self? Oh,

Tina Rushing
yeah. 100% mental health is to be open about it is to be open with what you feel inside. Younger Tina? Didn’t. I pretended to be happy I put on that facade, right. It’s that there was a pair of Marcel that I actually just listened to yesterday. called fake happy. And it is it’s everyone when I was younger, looked at me and I’m pretty much they would say I’m the person I am today. But the biggest difference is I’m open about how I feel. Right? I don’t hide it anymore. Yeah, it was a big taboo when I was a kid. Like I couldn’t talk about my mom. That was like my biggest thing growing up is I lived in a really weird, not great environment. When I was a kid. I had great grandparents but we didn’t talk about my mom. Yeah, everyone saw her as a normal person, a loving mother who just lived with her parents and her child. But there was a reason why we did that. Right? And that’s because she couldn’t touch me. Right? Yeah. And we didn’t talk about it. And I remember feeling shame, and guilt and crying and a Dairy Queen, telling my 16 year old boyfriend at the time, that we couldn’t throw something away with my mom in the building. And no one knew that to that point. I never talked about it until that point, 16 years of not being able to touch stuff, not be able to do things, and never talking about it because I felt shame and guilt. And now I don’t I believe that is the worst possible thing on the planet. Like I talked about the other day, I made a post and I, I post this because I want people to know it’s okay. I went to get a carwash and literally had a panic attack because I was in a car wash. Yeah. And younger, Tina would have just not said anything about it, and would have put a smiley face something and everything is great. Everything is awesome. Yes, that’s not good. Like I think we should be open with I can be a very happy, optimistic positive human being which I believe I am you I’m also wracked with grief, I have high anxiety, I’m still dealing with everything with my mom and losing my and what I like to I, I think of myself as a 30 something year old orphan. Yeah. And that’s still who I am. And what I deal with. And dealing with not having kids and all that is still who I am. And but I’m still a positive person. But now everyone knows all of it. And I’m not hiding. I don’t feel like I have two lives anymore.

Carly Someplace
Right. And I think that that’s very powerful. I guess advice for anybody who is hiding those, those things, that there is no, there shouldn’t be shame around around anything that’s happening in your world that has to do with mental health, or, or a home life or anything like that. And there is there’s so much advocacy for that. And there’s so many different resources, and I will, we will link some of those resources in the show notes of you know, anybody who needs access to mental health or therapy or different things like this, and I know punkrock saves lives has so much going on, and so much advocacy within their community of your community. And, and being able to, to move forward with that. And I think that that’s such solid advice, even for anybody now, not just your younger self. But I think that not having that two lives and not hiding things and not not being afraid to talk about like you were saying anxiety. And you know, I have very severe anxiety as well sometimes and people look at me and they’re like, No way. And that’s just because I’m, I’m outgoing, and I’m confident and I’ve, you know, look like I have my shit together. I’ll just preface this with you know, Tina and I actually moved this podcast interview by two days. Because I woke up with Stress hives, I had Stress hives, I woke up with even more Stress Hives two days ago, and Tina texted me and said, we’ll move our interview and it’s okay, because you just need to take a day and you need to not not relax, because we both know that that’s not really a word that operatively says, you know, oh, you know, whatever. But take a day and do what you need to do to rest and to, to calm yourself down a little bit. And hopefully that helps. And, and I think that even just the open honesty of me, saying, Oh, I have stressed hives and you being like, cool. And then let’s reschedule and not. And not. And again, I mean, obviously I’m saying this on my podcast that quite a few people listen to that I have Stress hives, you know, from buying a house and from moving in and from dealing with my grandmother. And doing a lot of this other stuff. And it’s the holidays, and I feel like I’m behind. But I’m not, I’m not hiding any of that from anything. And I also feel like not living two lives. And I think that that’s super important. And I think that telling your younger self that is so important because so many people need to hear that, that it’s okay to have those and to discuss those things that and it and it takes a while it’s not it’s not an immediate thing.

Tina Rushing
That’s that I mean, this is years in the making, but I have to say the thing that I like most about doing this step for yourself and letting you be vulnerable to anyone is huge because one of my biggest hurdles when I was a kid is I would be crying all day, right? Or, and I’ll just say this pretty commonly, but I was slightly suicidal at the age of 10. Okay, right. And I felt all of these things when I was a kid and then I would throw it all away and I’d be happy go lucky but the moment I wasn’t happy go lucky for like a second in front of people. People made it such a big deal. What’s wrong? Why aren’t you happy? You always smile And that’s the worst possible thing for a person. Right? It’s not. I know people think it’s like a coming from a loving place. But it’s like, if I can’t be normal for a moment, and like steady and calm and have a moment in public and people attack, it’s what made me not want to show anything for such a long time, right? But the moment you start being open about it all the time, people are like, What can I do to help you? What can I support you with? It’s a different conversation. It’s not the end of the world, and I’m unhappy, it’s more, do you need something from me? Do you need me to back up?

Carly Someplace
Right, exactly. And I think, I think that those, it’s, it’s hard because it’s, it’s so much easier as adults, for us to have those conversations or to recognize that in, in our friends in our family, in our whomever we’re around, of if they’re like I’m having a really bad day, not being like, oh, you know, smile and be fine. I hate things like that, versus being like, is there anything that I can do for you? Or, you know, do you want company? Do you want silence? Do you want all of this other stuff? And I think that those are very, that’s something that I’ve learned as an adult. And I don’t think that I had the tact to be like that as a kid. But I think that I think something that kids are really good at that we don’t give them credit for is active listening. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Very active listening. And we don’t really give kids credit for that. Because I’ve had even, you know, my nieces and nephews and such an if I’m like, Oh, I’m just not having a very great day. Well, I could bring you a toy. Would that help? Um, maybe, but not, not really, right. Now I kind of just, you know, want to lay down or I want to, you know, just read my book or, okay, well, can I sit with you? Yes. You know, things like that. And, and kids are our, they get it because they have big feelings, and they don’t really know how to express them. And I think that if, as adults, we continue to express our feelings that way, we’re showing kids that it’s okay to do that. And that’s so imperative. And that that can be you know, any kid in our lives, obviously, you know, if we’re not having our own or can’t have our own or, you know, choose to not have our own. That is that’s everybody’s personal choice, but any children that are in your life, because I don’t want to say inevitably, but for the most part, most of us have friends that have kids. And that is, you know, being around their kids and being able to be open and honest and have those discussions as well as is so important.

Tina Rushing
And I think we’re getting there I have a friend who has a lovely daughter that I like to think as mine, because she likes theatre, and she colors her hair. And I like it. I would say she’s quirky. Right? So that’s, I mean, we’re very similar. And I see that in her right, I see that and she messages her friends just to get a status check on how they are. Right? And not like what they’re doing. I think that’s the biggest thing. It’s asking how someone is and not needing anything really from that, right. It’s like a status check. Are you? Yes, right. Just a little pulse check on where you are in the day. And I see that and it’s kind of amazing. Or I see when they’ve had panic attacks, they look at me, they’re like, I need to do like, I need to do this, I This isn’t good for me. I need to I need something from you. Like I need help in this moment. And that’s kind of awesome, right. And that’s so important. And it’s huge. And I think we need more of that in our lives.

Carly Someplace
I totally agree with you. So I’m Tina, tell our listeners where they can find you and punk rock saves lives. All of that stuff. I’ll start with more information about our conference can be found at someplace for everybody.com. The conference has the same name as the podcast, because we thought it was appropriate. Someplace for everybody.com. There is a conference tab at the top and that will walk you through all of the details as well as have access to tickets, and it will take you off site to punk rock saves lives. website for ticketing just as a heads up, that’s not that’s how it’s supposed to be. And so But Tina, tell us where we can find people can find more information about punk rock saves lives and you and all of the things.

Tina Rushing
Awesome. I won’t thank you so much, again for having me. But also, I will just make a point. I think this before I talk about where you can find me and I’ll tell you a bunch of things in a little second. But this might be I think this podcast is the perfect thing of some place for everybody. Like we talked from a wide thing, and this is what you can get from this conference. I can’t say how excited I am enough to have the parties and be body positive with a bunch of other ladies that I love and adore. That. I don’t know yet. But also, this is the stuff that you can have and you can start working on like this is what this conference is for is to have meaningful conversations and to learn what we need and to have access to resources and teachers and things to do what we need for ourselves. And it’s it’s like a treat yourself conference, right? Yes. So there’s so many Real big reason why I believe in it. And we’ll probably talk about it everywhere on the internet and everywhere so people can understand that this is something. My journey and Carly’s journey and all these things can be your journey, but it’s not. And if you’ve had a similar journey or a different, you know what I mean, a different thing where you’ve come far, we need you there to share with someone who’s not ready yet and who needs

Carly Someplace
that step. Right. And I 100% agree. 100.

Tina Rushing
It’s a beautiful thing. It’s exciting. And I was thinking about that, as we’re talking, I’m like, but this is why this conference exists is for our conversation right now.

Carly Someplace
Exactly, exactly, exactly.

Tina Rushing
This is okay. Um, but yeah, you can find me on at WWW dot punkrock. Saves livestock org, we have multiple things between our mental health, you can sign up to volunteer with us. You can find events, we’re on Facebook, please join our mental health community. And for those who really are listening and want to start like a therapy journey, please email me and we’ll put that somewhere and she said, like notes or things, but you can email like in Fela puncog saves lives or Tina, just make sure it’s a.org. We are a 501 C three nonprofit. So our website is.org. But email me your email, and we have a deal with better help right now. Where you can have four free sessions a month of therapy, to at least start out to try it out to test it out. Free from

Carly Someplace
Yes. Which is huge.

Tina Rushing
Yeah, therapy is hard. It’s hard to get into it. It’s hard to start. And even a better help isn’t your like, end plan or your end place? It’s a good thing to start. I’ve, like I’ll be really open when I say I’ve seen 13 therapists in my life. And the reason for that is most of them weren’t right for me. Right. Right. And I think it’s the right one. Yeah, it’s a shop around and to like test it out. And it sucks. But I think having your first four sessions free is pretty great. So please find us on the internet, send me a thing. We’re on Instagram, as well. It’s all punk rock saves lives. And you can find us you can volunteer with us. You can learn more about our mental health, you can become a bone marrow donor, you can learn how to help your community. And we can try to make the world a little better place.

Carly Someplace
And I love it. I love it so much. And Tina, I love you.

Tina Rushing
I love you. And I’m like I can’t even say I’m thank you so much for having me. And I really hope everyone who listens to this I see in October. Yeah.

Carly Someplace
So excited. All right. Thanks, Tina.

Tina Rushing
Thank you.

Carly Someplace
Thanks so much for listening to someplace for everybody. If you love this episode, would you mind leaving me a review in your favorite podcast app and subscribe to the show. If you’re looking for a community to love on you and support you and your self love Journey, come join our all gender Facebook group someplace for everybody which can be found in the show notes at someplace for everybody.com Until we meet again. Be kind to yourself